Knowing that your parents are there for you no matter what is a good feeling. It helps children feel more confident and secure while interacting with the world around them. Most parents understand that and take measures to ensure that their children feel loved and supported by them. While most of them know how to go about it intuitively, others may need a little extra support to do this effectively.
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The key to showing up for your children is to care for them predictably, as opposed to perfectly. You need not be perfect for your child to understand that you are there for them. A book, The Power of Showing Up, How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired, written by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, lists Four S’s that will help parents or other caregivers to predictably care for children.
Four S’s of showing up help parents to be there for their children. There will be times when parents slip up, but not to worry, the book, The Power of Showing Up…, mentions that caring predictably involves making amends whenever needed to help children form a secure attachment. It is due to a concept called neuroplasticity, i.e. in layman’s terms, how the brain changes to new experiences and information. The brain also creates new neural pathways based on what we emphasise in our interactions with the world. Caring predictably by means of showing up for children creates mental models and expectations about the world around them. Showing up for children physically alters their brain. When you are present for them consistently, it helps them understand that they can meaningfully interact with the world around them even when they are in pain. It creates strength and resilience.
Overall, showing up for your child is critical for their development and helps them form secure attachments. These four S’s can be applied to any relationship because it makes them thrive, makes our brain healthier, and in turn, it makes everything more beautiful.
How do you show up for your child? What do you do when you slip up? Do you have any tips for other parents? Share your insights with us in the comments below or drop a mail at [email protected].
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