“Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”
― Abraham Joshua Heschel
For most of us, the words ‘parenting’ and ‘discipline’ go together. Most parents feel that they need to correct their children’s behaviour by disciplining them. After all, it helps children become better versions of themselves. However, the way of disciplining children differs from parent to parent. In most households, discipline involves punishment and control over a child’s behaviour.
But, it does not have to be that way. There is an approach to discipline that does not rely on punishment or control, and it is termed as ‘Positive Discipline.’
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According to the book, Positive Discipline A-Z, positive discipline is about instructing, educating, preparing, regulating, skill building, and focusing on solutions. It is encouraging, helping, loving, and optimistic in nature and is about mutually respectful relationships and cooperation. The focus here is to balance firmness with kindness while being respectful to the needs of the child.
A book, Positive Discipline for Today’s Busy (and Overwhelmed) Parent, lists a few questions that can help parents understand positive discipline better:
Here are a few principles of positive discipline that every parent needs to know before they start practising it in their everyday lives. Jane Nelson’s book, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers, mentions a few building blocks of positive discipline. Dr Jane Nelson got her doctorate degree in Educational Psychology from the University of San Francisco in 1979. She is the co-founder of a worldwide training program that has certified many people as Positive Discipline Facilitators through Positive Discipline Association in over seventy countries.
The purpose of discipline is to teach children. Positive discipline focuses on doing it through respect and connection. Parents can incorporate positive discipline in their everyday lives through understanding, communication, and encouragement.
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