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What Is Positive Parenting?

Team StoryWeavers|January 11, 2021|

What is positive parenting

All of us agree that a stable family that provides security and warmth is critical for the optimal development of children. Parent-child interaction is a critical part of that family life. A loving, respectful relationship strengthens the parent-child bond whereas the lack thereof weakens it. Positive parenting might just be the answer to promoting family health. 

In this article, we will cover:

What Is Positive Parenting?

A concept analysis paper titled Positive Parenting, published in 2014, suggests that positive parenting includes teaching, understanding, leading, listening, providing safety, and giving clear and consistent discipline while respecting the child. 

Here are a few other attributes that come under the concept of positive parenting: 

  • Caring — Demonstrating love, compassion, warmth, affection, and attachment to the child
  • Leading — Setting developmentally appropriate limits and boundaries with the child
  • Providing — Ensuring access to food, shelter, finances, medicine, and hygiene for the child
  • Teaching — Providing cognitive stimulation, social interaction with developmentally appropriate expectations
  • Communicating — Communicating with respect and listening actively to the child

Principles of Positive Parenting

A book published by Oxford University Press, The Power of Positive Parenting — Transforming the Lives of Children, Parents, and Communities Using the Triple P System, lists five principles of positive parenting. 

Safe And Engaging Environment

Positive parenting encourages parents to provide a safe environment for children to explore, experiment, and play. It aims to prevent injuries at home. Supervising children in this context requires parents to know what the child is doing, who the child is with, and what the child is up to. Exploring the environment safely keeps children engaged and reduces the likelihood of misbehaviour. 

Positive Learning Environment

Parents are the child’s first teachers. Creating a positive learning environment requires parents to respond positively and constructively while having conversations with children. It encourages parents to provide attention to children and have conversations with children about their current interests. It basically asks parents to act like a resource that children can access when they need help. 

Assertive Discipline

Assertive discipline allows children to take responsibility for their actions and develop self-control as a result. Consistent assertive discipline as opposed to threatening and yelling reduces the likelihood of children developing any emotional or behavioural problems. Assertive discipline requires parents to respond quickly and assertively while teaching children to behave in an acceptable manner. 

Realistic Expectations

Having unrealistic expectations from the child can prove to be detrimental for both the child as well as the parent. Realistic expectations are developmentally appropriate. Having realistic expectations from themselves is also important for positive parenting. It allows parents to deal with things in an easier manner when things don’t go to plan. 

Parental Self-Care

Positive parenting encourages parents to indulge in self-care now and then. When their own personal needs are met, parents are more likely to be patient, consistent, and available to their children.  It requires them to understand how their perceptions and self-talk affect their parenting ability. 

Positive parenting is about building a child’s social, emotional, and self-regulation abilities. It is not about controlling children’s misbehaviour. This parenting approach helps children acquire developmental competencies to live a happy, productive life. 

Do you agree with this positive parenting approach? Let us know in the comments below. 

About the Author

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Mekhala Joshi

“Me-kha-la!” That happens at least once when she introduces herself to new people. She’s the only ‘Mekhala’ she knows, and she takes a bit of pride in that. She is a quintessential introvert. Mekhala loves tea but cannot make a good cup of tea and often ends up having coffee. She claims that she takes all adjectives as complements unless specified otherwise. Mekhala is an organizational psychologist and psychometrician. She was a class teacher of 36 adorable girls for two years, grade 2 & 3, as a part of Teach For India Fellowship. And has worked as an independent consultant for a couple of years.

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