Do you know a child or even an adult who is difficult to deal with – be it as a parent, teacher, relative, or a friend? Being labelled as ‘difficult’ is hard, especially for children and adults alike. Today, we are going to explore what everyone needs to know about how to handle difficult children.
Things everyone needs to know about difficult children
A book by Ann R. Sutton, Parenting A Defiant Child: How to Train Difficult Children and Control Kids with Intense Emotions, lists down four things that can be identified in a defiant child. It should be noted that some level of defiance is perfectly normal, as children tend to explore their newfound independence by testing the limits of the people around them, mostly parents.
The four identifiers in difficult children are as follows:
Questions that parents must ask themselves about their child’s defiance
Russell A. Barkley and Christine M. Benton’s book, Your Defiant Child, First Edition Eight Steps to Better Behaviour, lists three questions that parents need to ask themselves about their child’s defiant behaviour. Dr Barkley is a clinical psychologist who is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the VCU Medical Center. Following are guiding questions that will help you understand the causes of defiant or difficult behaviour:
Tips for parents to deal with defiant behaviour
A book, Positive Discipline: A Teacher’s A-Z Guide, by Dr Jane Nelsen, lists a few strategies that can help teachers deal with defiant children. These tips will also be helpful for parents. They are as follows:
Children are less likely to engage in difficult or defiant behaviour when they are invited to give their inputs and feel like they are a part of the process. Parents should give clearer instructions and set effective boundaries to increase the likelihood of desired behaviour. As always, be patient and consistent, and you will see that your child is finding it easier to follow through with your parental requests.
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