Parenting is full of simple moments such as smiling reassuringly at your child who is going to join other children to play. It creates a profound impact on the little ones. These not so little moments create a bond of trust as the parent shows up for their child and predictably cares for them. It is said to help children form secure attachments.
In today’s article, we will try to understand:
A book, Raising a Secure Child, written by psychotherapists Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell clarifies a few things about secure attachment. The book says that secure attachment is about knowing that someone has your back and this knowledge opens a world of possibilities for children.
The book also lists three ways of forming a secure attachment with children:
Another research explains that secure attachment allows children to be comforted by parents when they are distressed. It also helps them explore their environment when not stressed by using parents as a secure base.
Dr Newton is a licensed clinical psychologist and is endorsed as an Early Childhood Mental Health Specialist. Dr Ruth Newton’s book, The Attachment Connection, mentions a few things that children learn through secure attachment:
As a result of all these learnings, children who form a secure attachment learn that they are competent, capable, cooperative and lovable.
That is why, it is critical that parents help their children form a secure attachment. Parents can do that by consistently showing up and predictable caring. Predictable caring does not mean that parents never make a mistake. It means making amends with your child when you slip up. It allows children to thrive as they form a secure attachment with parents and eventually others around them.
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