Most parents have experienced at least one moment where their child has refused to listen to them, despite giving clear instructions. Children need to listen to their parents and follow the rules set by their parents because it keeps them safe – physically and emotionally. That is where loving authority comes into play. It helps children understand the difference between instructions that are non-negotiable and choices.
As a parent, when you look back, you might remember warm but firm adults that you respected and the timid ones you did not feel the need to listen to. It is the same with your child. Your child knows you, just like you know your child. They understand how you respond to things and may at times use this information to push the boundaries you have set for them. You need to wield your authority as a parent while being loving and respectful towards your child. In this article, we will cover what loving authority as a parent looks like.
Sally-Ann Creed’s book, Raising Happy, Healthy Children: A Practical Guide to Parenting and Nutrition, does a wonderful job of explaining what loving authority for parents looks like:
Loving authority teaches children that their choices affect their lives and that their parents will still love them regardless of their choices. Like everything else, be consistent with your child. Tell the child over and over again that you love them and will be there for them no matter what. Reiterate that you have a problem with that particular behaviour and not them as a person. It is super important.
Did you like reading this article? What are some other things that parents need to know about being warm and firm at the same time? Let us know in the comments section.
Creed, S. (2010). Raising Happy, Healthy Children: A Practical Guide to Parenting and Nutrition.
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