“Perhaps it takes courage to raise children.”
– John Steinbeck, 1962 Nobel Prize in Literature winner
Previously, we have spoken about different parenting approaches, such as positive parenting, peaceful parenting, child centered parenting, etc. Today, we will explore a new parenting approach called helicopter parenting.
In this article, we will cover:
Dr. Foo Koong Hean’s book, Intercultural Parenting, tells us that helicopter parenting can be defined as a style of parenting where a parent tends to be overprotective and in turn ends up affecting the independence of the child as a result of being over-involved in the child’s life. Helicopter parents are likely to ‘hover over’ their children and take responsibility for their decisions. They are unlikely to give their children enough freedom and may prefer engaging in directive behaviours. This is a parenting mistake that must be avoided.
Another book, 10 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Parents, by Dr Magdalena Battles, who specialises in parenting, child development, family relationships, etc, mentions a few pitfalls of helicopter parenting that arise out of not letting children work out things on their own. Here are some effective parenting tips for parents to avoid helicopter parenting:
Parenting is a lifelong process. It is important for parents to not lose sight of that and help children become independent. Children are likely to become independent only when they know that they can solve their problems on their own as a result of learning from their mistakes.
Your children will always need you to guide them. Be there for them, answer their questions, and soothe their worries, but do give them a chance to solve their problems on their own.
What is your take on helicopter parenting? Do you often see helicopter parenting around you? Let us know in the comments below.
Foo, K. H. (2019). Intercultural Parenting: How Eastern and Western Parenting Styles Affect Child Development. United Kingdom: Taylor & Francis.
Battles, M. (2021). 10 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Parents. (n.p.): Whitaker House.
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